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8.11.09
3.11.09
That's what are friends for! Right?
I've started to investigate friendships in an objective level because I am really puzzled to know all the different layers and find out what are the requirements that one can say this is a friendship.
I've noticed that friendship means so different for everybody.
There are people who call only when they need someone to go out with/ booze/ or you are the last person on their phone list but still better then appearing at bar alone.
Or people who promise you all these kind of things and they win your trust and when the day comes when you truly would need a favour or help they just swim out of it and never fulfill their promises. In other words help when it works for them otherwise no.
Also we can find people who want to hang out with you with a small period of time whether you are noticed in fashion, or your play runs in the theaters or you are the artist of the moment etc. just to slice their own piece of the cake on your expense.
Or these thieves you lend something and they are so convincing that you are going to get it back next week's this and this day and actually the first time you hear from this person is when you six months later ran up to him/her at a new bar's opening wearing your stuff.
Then there are the friends who pretend that they have forgiven you your mistakes and seem to be true and vice versa and you begun to trust them bit by bit and slowly letting them back into your life and giving yourself and the other one a second chance. Just to find out how he/she has twisted the truth in own favour and spread it across th people you know just to get by.
Or letting me know if I need help with something and then when I do I just get an old supposedly forgotten issue brought to life and rubbed into my face again.
Oh and what about people that call you as their friends and say that yes I know him/her so well if asked. And when this information reaches you , you are just like actually I've never seen this person in my life and I seriously don't know him/her.
Or these people who control the friendship by listing all the people his/her friends are not allowed to associate because the person has an issue or an other with the listed. By making so called threats and blackmailing his/her own friends to do as he/she pleases and always to work the way he/she wants. Usually this phenomena is seen on a small posse where this kind of person is the boss of the posse and they work as a unit .
There is more to this than these above. I just found these as a perfect example as an misunderstood synonyms for friendship. Please if any of you finds these qualities withing your selves and actually does this in real life to their friends please stop.
I've had to endure all these kind of people and I am still alive and kicking but I mean when I was younger that kind of mistrust, disappointment, control and sense of unequal to them really affected me and can really destroy a lot from a person. I know now that this thing is going on strong all the time. I just have to go to a bar and see people doing these to them selves and they are "friends".
I try to treat my friend's with respect and try to handle this with compromise but never let anyone walkover me or you advantage of me. I never give promises that I know I won't keep. I try to help as much as I can. I always listen what my friends have to say in good or bad and never turn my back on those.
Just try to do the good thing you know. You guys also try to do the good thing. Let's put positive thing flow and I promise you it is going to award you someday.
Love Vesa xoxo
I've noticed that friendship means so different for everybody.
There are people who call only when they need someone to go out with/ booze/ or you are the last person on their phone list but still better then appearing at bar alone.
Or people who promise you all these kind of things and they win your trust and when the day comes when you truly would need a favour or help they just swim out of it and never fulfill their promises. In other words help when it works for them otherwise no.
Also we can find people who want to hang out with you with a small period of time whether you are noticed in fashion, or your play runs in the theaters or you are the artist of the moment etc. just to slice their own piece of the cake on your expense.
Or these thieves you lend something and they are so convincing that you are going to get it back next week's this and this day and actually the first time you hear from this person is when you six months later ran up to him/her at a new bar's opening wearing your stuff.
Then there are the friends who pretend that they have forgiven you your mistakes and seem to be true and vice versa and you begun to trust them bit by bit and slowly letting them back into your life and giving yourself and the other one a second chance. Just to find out how he/she has twisted the truth in own favour and spread it across th people you know just to get by.
Or letting me know if I need help with something and then when I do I just get an old supposedly forgotten issue brought to life and rubbed into my face again.
Oh and what about people that call you as their friends and say that yes I know him/her so well if asked. And when this information reaches you , you are just like actually I've never seen this person in my life and I seriously don't know him/her.
Or these people who control the friendship by listing all the people his/her friends are not allowed to associate because the person has an issue or an other with the listed. By making so called threats and blackmailing his/her own friends to do as he/she pleases and always to work the way he/she wants. Usually this phenomena is seen on a small posse where this kind of person is the boss of the posse and they work as a unit .
There is more to this than these above. I just found these as a perfect example as an misunderstood synonyms for friendship. Please if any of you finds these qualities withing your selves and actually does this in real life to their friends please stop.
I've had to endure all these kind of people and I am still alive and kicking but I mean when I was younger that kind of mistrust, disappointment, control and sense of unequal to them really affected me and can really destroy a lot from a person. I know now that this thing is going on strong all the time. I just have to go to a bar and see people doing these to them selves and they are "friends".
I try to treat my friend's with respect and try to handle this with compromise but never let anyone walkover me or you advantage of me. I never give promises that I know I won't keep. I try to help as much as I can. I always listen what my friends have to say in good or bad and never turn my back on those.
Just try to do the good thing you know. You guys also try to do the good thing. Let's put positive thing flow and I promise you it is going to award you someday.
Love Vesa xoxo
2.11.09
Halloween 2009 Picture Gallery
Location BAR LOOP
Party FLOP 1st Anniversary / Pia & Heikki's Birthday bash
So what's up?
Well well well.
Interesting week behind and hopefully an another interesting week is about to begin.
Remember my wish list for the last week? Shall we sum up?
Cut boyfriend's hair / Check
Couple of sunny days for us Finns / Check
A good party with friends / Check
Positive attitude / Check
A call to receive a placement from an international agency / No, but a call from Mikko Vainio from Skt Group for Tigi. Yup did a mini tour to Lappeenranta and Lahti. Had Fun with hair ;) Cheers crew it was fun as always.
Get some sleep / Check
Everything considering video, photos or creative material / fail because my dear Canon pocket camera resigned it self. YES MY CAMERA IS BROKEN. No Fashion Monster videos or new photos for a while. Sorry :(
Oh well it is just a small set back, nothing to worry about.
Otherwise The end of the week was rather interesting. Friday I partied in the name of gothic fashion and Halloween. Saturday night I got an information that we all have to move away from the apartment we stayed at on Sunday. Felt homeless for couple of hours yesterday until a saving angel Heta came to rescue and now me and Paddy are based in Töölö.
Now I am determined to go forward with full force to arrange are departure to London or where ever for another great adventure.
I feel like a traveling gypsy which is really liberating in a way after spoiling yourself for 5 years.
I promise to upload stuff from the weekend today or during the couple first days of this week.
Have a nice Monday people!
Love
Vesa
Interesting week behind and hopefully an another interesting week is about to begin.
Remember my wish list for the last week? Shall we sum up?
Cut boyfriend's hair / Check
Couple of sunny days for us Finns / Check
A good party with friends / Check
Positive attitude / Check
A call to receive a placement from an international agency / No, but a call from Mikko Vainio from Skt Group for Tigi. Yup did a mini tour to Lappeenranta and Lahti. Had Fun with hair ;) Cheers crew it was fun as always.
Get some sleep / Check
Everything considering video, photos or creative material / fail because my dear Canon pocket camera resigned it self. YES MY CAMERA IS BROKEN. No Fashion Monster videos or new photos for a while. Sorry :(
Oh well it is just a small set back, nothing to worry about.
Otherwise The end of the week was rather interesting. Friday I partied in the name of gothic fashion and Halloween. Saturday night I got an information that we all have to move away from the apartment we stayed at on Sunday. Felt homeless for couple of hours yesterday until a saving angel Heta came to rescue and now me and Paddy are based in Töölö.
Now I am determined to go forward with full force to arrange are departure to London or where ever for another great adventure.
I feel like a traveling gypsy which is really liberating in a way after spoiling yourself for 5 years.
I promise to upload stuff from the weekend today or during the couple first days of this week.
Have a nice Monday people!
Love
Vesa
30.10.09
Happy Halloween!
This is my assembly for Halloween. Inspired by Lady Gaga's new album cover!
THE FAME MONSTER
29.10.09
26.10.09
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